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Hi SW People 馃槂

I have a dilemma. So I finally decided to try online dating late last year with a guy from another continent, another race and different religion. I started talking to this guy back in 2021 and though he was a rude son of a biscuit we hit it off. I liked him from day one and months later he was telling me how he loved me blah blah blah 馃檮.Y'all know how difficult it is to believe guys especially someone you've never met. We started occasionally doing video calls and voice calls and before long I was in love. Of course I never told him this till we started dating late last year.

We dated for 3 months and he broke up with me multiple times for stupid reasons. He's a spoilt brat (he told me this himself) and is used to having his way. He'd apologize and I'd take him back and life would go on. What I love about this guy is that he's genuine about his feelings he tells you exactly how he feels you don't have to second guess what he says. He gives me his undivided attention each day. At first I thought he was entertaining other girls but I doubt he'd have time for me if he was that kind of guy.

He told me he broke up with his ex in 2018 and since then hasn't been able to move on. In February this year which was 4 months into our relationship he broke up with me because I refused to send him nude pictures. That's just not my thing. Next thing he blocked me. I was heartbroken because I thought that we could at least be friends if we couldn't date. I mean we were friends for 2 full years why couldn't we go back to that right. I don't have a problem finding a guy in my country and race so I'm not really short of suitors. Two weeks later he texts me apologizing to me telling me that he can't live without me and loves me. We agreed to stay friends but the spark is still there. Problem is he doesn't want to date me if I won't send him nudes and to be honest I don't mind not dating him if that's what is expected of me 馃檮.

[b][c=000000]My question is can you date someone online without sharing nudes?[/c][/b]

Cause my friends don't share nudes with their boyfriends. The only difference is their boyfriends live in the same city unlike me who only talks to this guy online.
LilPrincess41-45, F
Been there before multiple times. I got played every time. 馃槖


Can it work? Yes. My best friend met someone online.... He is from IL and she was from GA. I first thought he was crazy. The talked for a year before meeting. Today they are married and have three kids.
Hotchocolatezebra31-35, F
@LilPrincess Thanks hon 馃.

I tried friendship with guys they always cross the line and hit on me till I'm so uncomfortable I break up the friendship. Seems like your bestie is a different species of male 馃槃.
LilPrincess41-45, F
@Hotchocolatezebra you're welcome 馃

Same here except when I am in a relationship then my guy friends are respectful only because they are afraid...I will yell馃槀

He really is one of a kind. Even holds the door open and opens the car door like a monster 馃槀馃槀
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in10RjFoxM
Online relationship gets more intimate than physical, as it does not have other factors such as time, place, distance , travel etc. Moreover, voice calls does give the effect of being next to each other. It will for sure reach a point where the exposure starts to happen. But it must happen on its own while being intimate over video calls. But it loses its motive, if its demanded or made a condition. It also means that the guy lacks the tact to make you strip.

Do so only if you feel comfortable that he won't threaten you with it later, since he is breaking up often. Maybe demand his nudes first as video and store it.. Another option is to go for partial nudes without revealing your face or just the close up of your privates..
Jessmari41-45
You absolutely can.

The way I see if you were to share nudes it should be because you want to not because he demands them with an ultimatum.
dancingtongue80-89, M
I may be a unicorn, but have never asked. Have received some unsolicited, but never asked. And as for the second part, I met my late partner online. We had 11 years together; lived together the last 10.
TonydangM
I think a long distance relationship needs to progress if that鈥檚 sending nudes well that鈥檚 only for you to decide but it can grow stale
Keaten31-35, M
Yes. It can happen. Both parties have to set boundaries and respect each other and be honest with each other.
I'm sorry you had to deal with that from him.
Been there and done that. I don't think sharing nudes is a bad thing but it shouldn't revolve around dating
Let me simply say this:

[b]THE INTERNET IS FOREVER[/b]

And you don't know with who and where he is sharing them. If he wants FAP material, the internet has thousands of pictures of women who trusted their "love" when he said he would not share them.
TeslinM
Online dating? No, not for me.
But if it works for you, that's fine.
Nude photos, again, your call. If you say no, he has to live with that. If he refuses, move on.
StevetheSleeve31-35, M
You can but it鈥檚 probably rare. But that guy is pushing way too hard
SW-User
Sharing nudes to a stranger is asking to be exploited.
Nick161-69, M
Answer: yes, you can date without sharing nudes.
Tracos51-55, M
I never send or ask for nudes
JustScottM
I鈥檓 not sure if online dating can really work.
But my opinion about nude pics is no. It鈥檚 really up to you but if you do it it鈥檚 done forever! Once your pic is out there it can end up anywhere on the internet.
Tastyfrzz61-69, M
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ViciDraco36-40, M
I've had several online relationships. Only one of them sent me nudes, and she did it without my needing to ask. It's definitely not a requirement. If he won't respect your boundaries, i have to question how pure his love is.
Hotchocolatezebra31-35, F
@ViciDraco I told him if dating him is conditional maybe it's not love to begin with. He was like saying I love you daily is not a relationship and I was like sharing nudes doesn't proof love for someone. He called me difficult and complicated. I reminded him that he knew from day one that I don't do nudes and he has like I thought you'd change for me and I was like I'm not controlled by love.
ViciDraco36-40, M
@Hotchocolatezebra that's really good on you for knowing your boundaries and demanding they be respected. A person not sharing nudes sounds like a pretty dumb relationship dealbreaker to me. It can hurt to realize that your heart grew attached to someone who isn't going to respect who you are. But if his intention to begin with was to have you change for him then it is probably best that you move on.
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ArtieKatM
I totally agree @BBeth!
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Hotchocolatezebra31-35, F
@eMortal He's gonna be waiting till he turns grey cause I ain't gonna change my mind. I don't share nudes period 馃槀.
eMortalM
@Hotchocolatezebra 馃槀馃槀馃槀

 
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